What Do I Know?

I am working on a lot of self-discovery and have had a giant boost in energy, intuition and spiritual growth. I am nearing the end of this life phase and will start another one. I just don’t know when. Spirit may say “soon” and it happens 3 years later! That is the problem with psychic readings or direction from spirit. Their timeline and ours are very different.

As a psychic I have learned to ask for more specific information like month, season or even year. I had a psychic reading perhaps 5 years ago and I asked her when I would receive something very specific. She answered “August.” Naturally I thought it was August 5 years ago. It wasn’t. This event seems to be starting now. So I could have asked, “August of what year?” Try to remember when you are given information from spirit that you may need some additional information.

When I speak of people charting 1/3 of their life with difficult lessons and turmoil, I speak from experience. My childhood was very difficult and I still don’t openly discuss what I went through even with my own children. But, my childhood was tragic up to the age of 18 or 19. Then, as an adult (more or less) the tragedy was part my own doing and part abusive marriage. As I aged I did ask spirit for the meaning of my childhood situations and that is when they told me about the common 1/3 tendency.  Part of what you read on this site is me and most of it is spirit over the years. I would never author this blog on my own. I am a conduit, not a spiritual leader!

In my own life my childhood was wrought with trauma and difficult situations. My young adulthood I began to learn that those harsh lessons were meant to teach me something. My marriage taught me too many difficult lessons about abuse, self-worth, parenthood, consequences… Then, I started my actual learning phase. I found God, began to pray and understood that I had charted this life in order to learn some specific lessons. What I struggled to learn, I could help to teach others in similar situations.

Thankfully, I am beyond my 1/3 of trouble. This next phase is something better and coming from a vastly different perspective. My connection to spirit is very good. My ability to “read” other people has improved immensely. My willingness to step forward and help those around me is still not enough, this I know. I tend to avoid turmoil if I can. My ability to accept direction from spirit is awesome. I am given dialog, charts, graphs, timelines, agendas, song lyrics, life stories spoken as fairy tales… I have no doubt that my ability to comprehend and share spirit guidance is pretty good.

We have been told in the past that your greatest teachers are perhaps those who have harmed you the most. This is true in my life. My mother and ex-husband taught me volumes of learning and knowledge. Each sibling has come with a different set of lessons. Aunts, uncles, cousins and community members have taught me some important things as well. This is so important for you to understand. Yes, it hurts, but what is the purpose for what you have experienced? What are important are the lessons. Even if you have to write things down to figure out what the purpose was, get something positive out of everything that you go through. Always be willing to learn.

I have continued to learn from my parents even beyond their death. That is one benefit of being psychic. They have each changed so much after leaving this life. It will bring me to tears. I am on better terms with each of them now. This is a blessing. They want me to share information with my siblings or other family members but I tend to avoid these expectations. Why? Because I think they will focus on me and not the message. Who am I? What do I know? Keep this to yourself!

As a psychic, it takes a while before people are ready to accept that information, guidance and direction are not coming from me. I get a lot of anger because I don’t mince words. Spirit is direct and so am I. This may hurt your feelings, and it usually does. I believe that my duty is to give you all of the information that spirit wishes you to know. If I start editing or paraphrasing, I am doing you a disservice. So imagine how interesting a spirit-guided visit would be for one of my siblings. Yikes. I am the youngest of 8. No one wants to hear my mouth even though I am in my 50’s and have changed a lot. A drop by reading is never good.

Please take the information provided by spirit with an open mind and an eagerness to learn. If your life were nothing but kisses and flowers, there may be less emotional pain but how often is that? Get a recording or write it down. Review it from time to time to time and be objective. I have had people offended when they receive the reading and then truly grateful after a year. This is common. The truth hurts. Sorry.

Always be sure whether you are getting actual spirit information or if the psychic is giving you advice or somehow altering the message. I stopped seeing a psychic because I was getting her own advice! This is not what a reading is for. If someone is genuine they may give you the factual information then expand upon it if you have questions. But ALL of the information is from spirit or other Divine beings.

Remove the emotion from what you have heard and set about discovering the lessons.

If you hear voices and are not psychotic, be careful who you think that they are. It is usually your self-talk but it could be something more troublesome. I find I hear inauthentic voices often. By being psychic, spirit is drawn to me. I shine like a beacon. Earthbound spirits may dwell in my space in order to soak up my energy or provide me with false information. I call it debris. I am able to pray and ask for the debris to be blocked, meditate and seek my higher guides to block it or envision blocks myself using energy and light. I still get caught unaware so I can imagine it may be easy for you to get derailed.

This is where the advice comes from about information being upsetting. If it is not matter-of-fact, it is not genuine. This is one of the more difficult situations to comb through.

“The voice sounds just like my uncle.” A ghost will flip through the files in your brain and represent themselves as your uncle. They may provide the smell of cologne, whiskey and breath mints but it still isn’t your uncle. Our own minds are very creative. This discernment takes time. As I have said, even after 15 years I still get debris. It is constant.

Often I get a voice that either tells me what I want to hear or taps into what I want or need just to cause me emotional pain. This could be my own ego voice which will cause upset intentionally or debris. The best way to discern where the voice is coming from is through my God Center, being grounded and full of Light. If I touch my fingers to my God Center, I get a sense of truth about it and I am able to either quiet my ego voice or banish the debris. This is a great way to double check the origin of a lot of different energy.

Usually in a reading, spirit will say something about an object, event or situation that is current. This is to let you know that they are in your life at present. They like the new paint in the kitchen, your new hairstyle or congratulations on your son’s wedding. This lets you know they are near you and share in the special events of your life or perhaps some upsetting moments as well.

Be careful taking advice from spirit. They may have crossed over but they still offer some bad advice. Spirit will retain their usual prejudices, paranoia or preferences. Don’t take financial advice from a loved one who died heavily in debt. Just because they are on the Other Side does not make them experts.

You may receive wonderful information about your health and well-being as long as the details come from a genuine source. Be cautious and double check where the information is coming from.

I get information about car accidents, illnesses, injuries, presidential elections, and the gender of unborn babies… Do I always pass along this information? No. There is a purpose to each event. I had become aware that my nephew would total his new truck. I was told when, where, the circumstances of his loss of control of the vehicle and that he would not be seriously harmed. I did not inform him or my sister. He needed to learn about speeding, winter road conditions and driving under the influence of alcohol. He learned those lessons without me.

Sometimes I will pass information along but this is usually to people who know where this information comes from and are open to psychic/mediums. I am not the psychic that will walk up to you in the supermarket and tell you to get to the Dr. This isn’t me.

If you want that type of information, make sure that the psychic knows. If you don’t get the information it is because you can’t do anything about it. Nothing would be influenced if you were to know. It is that simple. Someone isn’t a bad psychic if they don’t have all the information.

This is some gentle information about psychics, spirit guides, hearing voices and getting accurate information. It is truly a blend of me and spirit. I find that the more I love you and others, the better and more accurate the information is that I am provided. If I was trying to make a million dollars, I would be acting from ego and the details would be wholly untrue and possibly inflammatory. Not matter-of-fact.

I will be sure to let you know when my new life phase starts. Now that I know it is August of 2017! It has been a wild ride but you will know what I know. I have done the work and have tools that you may not. Thank you for being here.

 

 

The Blessed Journey Within

Finding God does not take a trip of a thousand footsteps. You merely have to look inside to find HIM.

Why do you feel that faith is something that you find somewhere? Your soul has all of the necessary information on God and life that you will ever need. Looking outside of yourself may be a deterrent to finding those “truths” that you know exist.

You don’t live life inside of yourself. This would accomplish nothing. You must balance what happens around you and what is in your soul. To initially find your faith you must touch upon it where it resides in your God Center. This is in your solar plexus or the area behind the tip of your sternum.

Often advice comes suggesting you follow your heart or what you have determined to be factual in your mind. These two energy centers may not give you the most accurate information. Emotions cloud much of the information that spirit may provide to you. It is this fact that skews your guidance.

Emotions will keep you actively involved in negative loops of thinking and behavior. If you are in an abusive relationship will you leave and get safe if you follow your heart? No. You will likely stay because you love that person. You love them enough to keep forgiving them over and over again. What does your mind say about this? Whatever you choose to tell yourself. Your self-talk may be keeping you in this relationship as well. “I love him, he will change, and she made a promise this time… I know she will change for me.” Either your heart or your mind has not provided you with truthful information.

You will be chasing emotions for the rest of your life but this will not get you anywhere. The truth is in your God Center. Touch your fingers to the lower portion of your sternum. Be still and meditative if possible. Find that truth that is there. To know you have successfully made a connection to your true self you will feel a sense of calm and knowing.

This knowledge is based in truth so there is no emotion attached to it. This is also a good state to be mindful. In this inner connection you find truth and stability that you may have not known before. Emotion makes you run here or there, become upset with what is and mood swings from euphoria to desolation. This is not spiritual health. This is being a slave to your emotions.

Have you found that you haven’t made any real progress by following your emotions? If you make decisions by what mood you are in, there is no authentic motivation. These decisions may leave you feeling empty, lost or alone. You may also feel like you never get ahead. It may be like climbing a mountain of fine sand. You have images of never reaching the top.

Your chart is in your God Center. Your guides and God are there too.

If you find your mind whirls with chatter, who are you actually listening to? Most of the time it is your own inner voice. Occasionally it is a guide or other Divine being. Sometimes it is a ghost or earthbound spirit who offers you useless or upsetting information. There are darker beings that may invade your mind but that would take a skilled seer to discover this. NEVER go to someone who has no training or background in dealing with attachments or nefarious spirits. This will only deepen your struggles.

Information given to you that is frightening is not a spirit guide. Genuine guidance from spirit guides is matter-of-fact. They are verbally blunt and expressionless. This emotionless exchange is true. You always have to remember how you felt the moment you received the information. Why? Because you will add emotion, fear, excitement, dread, hopelessness… It may be helpful to write it down so when your mind or heart begins to add layers of nonsensical information you may reconnect with how you felt when you originally became aware of the information. Weed out the mind/heart interference and remember what the genuine message was.

Receiving genuine guidance may not make you very popular. You tend to become matter-of-fact as well. Things make sense and seem obvious. You have a direct line to what your intuition states from this life and perhaps a few others. This unquestionable “knowing” may irritate those you deal with. They may feel that you are uncaring or a know-it-all. They may also mistake your mental strength and stability as some type of personality disorder. You really want people to know that you love them and offer support, care and nurturing. You are not an emotionless robot so do not present yourself as one. This is one caveat. Remember to offer love and support because when others are still dealing from their heart or mind they will not comprehend your God Center directness. Find truth but remember how to love.

Have you known spiritual leaders to seem arrogant or lofty? This is that caveat that we make reference to. You may have profound faith and dedication to God but still seem unapproachable or distant. This really doesn’t help you or anyone else. Life does not occur in a vacuum. You need information from within AND still participate in life. This is one of your life goals.

To be lofty and above all others will make your soul group connections diminish. You will seem to travel in isolation. You may only communicate with others who have your same lofty beliefs. Then what good are you doing for your loved ones, family and community? Be a real person with a direct connection to God. Remain humble and stay connected to loved ones. Be aware that they are still dealing in terms that you have found to be ineffective and obsolete. They still deserve your love and attention. If they cannot deal with you on your spiritual level then choose to send them angels, pray for their well-being and jump in with help where and when you can.

Don’t be a silo in a world of too many silos. Use your knowledge and awareness to help everyone along. Send love, hope and healing to all others. You are not going to break bread with them or allow them to live in your guest room but a thoughtful prayer and blessing is awesome. There are struggles throughout this world. Send something positive to these places or situations. Many spiritual beings will offer that LOVE is always the answer. Embrace this and see where it takes you.

Love is truly in your God Center. Self-love, love of others and love for all Creation does not just reside in your heart. The entirety of “your” truth is in your God Center and real life will flow from there.

Become the Vessel

There are many steps to increase your spirituality. You must open to God and allow your healing. There are things that we do which block this process. Spirit often reminds us to get out of our own way.

Being open is to allow yourself to believe in God, prayer, healing, miracles and limitless faith. Any amount of doubt will slow this journey. Open refers to a wide open space in your mind and being that is free from judgement, doubt or resistance. It is allowing yourself to be a blank canvas available to the Divine.

There are habits, behavior and ways of processing information which may be blocking your receptivity to God. You may set some goals to rid yourself of some obvious blocks to being open but some more obscure blocks may be left intact. That is why increasing your spirituality is a process. Divine clarity and complete openness is something that must be worked on over time. Always believe that you have more to learn. Even believing that you know everything is a block to higher evolution.

Receptivity is allowing you to be filled with your chart, faith, growth and maturity. Receive anything that the Light wishes to bring you. Strive to be open and receptive.

There are new ideas and different ways of thinking that you may immediately resist. It is best to be open to this possibility and at least consider what you are learning and why. To believe in only one route to find God you will certainly not find Him.

New ways of thinking are presented to you for a reason. This is a process in which spirit is offering you a more versatile way to worship and gain insight. If you doubt the source of new information then it truly may not be for you but if you have respect for the source, these may be the answers that you seek.

We have all been met with new ideas. Some fit and others don’t. What you know to be true now may have actually surprised you a few years ago. It is this ability to receive input that pushes you to grow. Test it. Try it out. If it really doesn’t work for you, let it go. If this same idea is presented to you again, it is likely meant for you to consider it more seriously. This is one way God and spirit work.

Mindfulness keeps you in the “now.” Not looking back or forward. Yes, you are encouraged to make goals but being in this very moment is essential to being open and receptive. To resist looking anywhere but this moment is key to finding that perfect space to meditate and commune with God and spirit.

You do not live life in the past or future. You live this life in the present. This is where you gain more insight than you have thought possible. To be grounded in now will bring answers to both the past and future. Know when to reach for it and when to say that it is ok to keep going. Resisting unnecessary emotion will bring more clarity to you.

Your genuine life is in spirit. While you are here, your chart involves lessons. Minimal emotion is good to help weed through your lessons and resist any unnecessary delay in learning. Severe mood swings actually cloud the Divine. Gather your experiences, learn the lessons and weave all of it into the fabric that is you. You will have more success if you keep your emotions moderate and live in the now.

Prayer is communicating with a Higher Power. Speak to God and release anything that is not of your higher self. Release any dark or negative thoughts and behavior. And, ask to be filled with unlimited Bright, White Light of Source.

Then allow your guides, angels and other protective beings to intervene on your behalf. Oddly, you may pray and voice your wishes for knowledge and understanding but if you don’t give Source permission to assist you, it will not occur. Your free will would override God’s Will.

Faith is the total release of any control that you feel you have in your life. By giving your life to God you will be at once healed, on your chosen path and squarely in the Light. Any doubt will undermine faith. It is certainly human to take back control of life’s circumstances, perhaps without even realizing that you have.

Faith also has a lot to do with finding your life purpose. If you continuously insist that you are here to do something specific, your actual purpose for this life may be vastly different. Faith will adjust your direction to bring you in alignment with what you genuinely came here to do. Altruistic actions are always a good decision but the world also needs bankers, investors, law enforcement, scientists… or other profession that is not what you would normally consider spiritual.

The best option is to do what you love, what you are drawn to and/or what comes naturally AND help to care for those less fortunate. Your vocation and working for God are not mutually exclusive. There are many ways to include all wonders of the world into each life. Faith will bring you to the doorway of your intended life but you make the choice to walk through it. Mistrust of your path will cause lost time attending to what you promised God that you would do.

Positive affirmations are what you say to yourself instead of the cycle of negative self-talk that you are used to. Focus on what areas of self-doubt that you have then increase the scope to include all areas of life. Resist the urge to restart the negative self-talk. This is not positive or beneficial. To heal and become ONE with the Universe, your thoughts must reflect that positivity, hope, joy and love that created us. Respect yourself and always be your greatest advocate and friend. Use the words that touch your soul and be whole again.

Positive visualizations also assist in overcoming doubt, fear, ego and dysfunction. In your mind’s eye view yourself as stunning, whole, fully healed and full of Light. Allow no blocks or barriers. Envision pure and vibrant colors. Glow like the brightest star and move with untold grace. To be God you must appear to be God. This is your natural state. Envision what being ONE with the Universe truly looks like. This is you.

Be Healed

As a seer and healer I have frequent talks with spirit. I need to be tuned in and fairly open energetically in order to hear my guidance. Sometimes I am not the best listener and I get my direction in time. Weeks ago I asked how to make any healing last long or become permanent. Now I have some understanding.

Usually healings take place and then all of us usually revert back to whatever closed thinking, dysfunction or previous physical state full of blocks & barriers. Even with a truly gifted healer, the effects may be temporary. Why, because we undo it. In order to make a healing permanent you must release any control or influence that you believe that you have over the situation. It would be like handing the entire situation to God and NOT taking back any control over it.

Most of us can’t do this. If we have a habit of overthinking a situation or physical state, we will likely still keep overthinking it past the time of healing. You would have to adopt complete faith and this is something that we all have a hard time doing. Most people can’t release all control over any important life circumstance. It is not our nature to do this easily. The only time we would take this step readily is if we were raised around and within a culture of total faith.

Have you ever wondered about the people that attend a Tent Revival and suddenly begin to walk again? Aside from the potential that this situation is staged, this would be a monumental feat. If you are the person who can walk again, how would you respond to this situation? Would you wake up in the morning and still be able to walk? Is it possible that you would need your wheelchair again? With total faith and an absence of doubt, this person may be able to walk from that healing forward.

We have talked about miracles in the past. These situations are very real. My own sister had a rollover accident and she reported to EMS and police that someone pulled her out of the wreck while the car was on its roof. Witnesses to the accident stated that there was no one there and she climbed out of the wreck unassisted. Who pulled her out of the wreck? She did not get injured. Not even a scratch. She pulled out in front of a car traveling 50 mph or more and her SUV was t-boned. Something Divine was at play here. Someone saved her from injury and pulled her from the wreckage. Obviously the lessons in this situation were not about severe injury in an auto wreck. This was our own miracle.

So where do you start? In order to be fully healed you must work on the issues in your life that hold you back from optimal health and well-being. Undo the physical, emotional and functional damage. Become the perfect “vessel” for healing.

What is a perfect vessel? Hollow.

You may wonder how you may be hollow when you have organs, blood, bone and other body tissues. Do you have to envision all of these contents when you evaluate your body’s well-being? No! Perceive yourself as full of light and bright, fluid colors. Imagine these stunning lights moving freely throughout your being. Now, push those beautiful colors outside of your physical boundaries. You are a stunning orb of God’s Light and love.

Banish any knot or bundle of stagnant energy. Flush these colors throughout your day. Whenever you think of it pump the vividness of your colors back up to phenomenal. Remain hollow and resist any physical form. Fluid, crystal clear and bright. This is a perfect vessel.

Now, how many ways are we capable of undoing this perfect vessel? Several. What is the best direction for each of us in order to maintain that perfect state? Be vigilant and meditate. Vigilance requires frequent attention. You must flush out all negative energy or darkness throughout your day. If you forget, most of everything that you have managed to release will come back. Meditation is key as well.

Finding an inner state of calm and receptivity to God will bring about some dramatic changes. Those moments are what complete faith feels like. You envision yourself as that hollow perfect vessel and allow God, spirit and other Heavenly Hosts to communicate with you. You resist active thought. You keep your mind blank and open. You remain grounded, centered, cleansed and cleared. Your breathing is slow, deep and rhythmical. You brighten your colors to fill the room and you don’t take back any control. You become ONE with the Universe.

Find this state each day and refuse to be guided by ego, greed and fear.

Now I am going to sit back and relax and wait for spirit to tell me all the ways you intend to fill back up with what you want, need or can’t let go of. This is the lesson. Without you becoming the perfect vessel for healing, you will go unhealed.

A Big Surprise

This may come as a complete shock to you but it is OK to skip some things that you have charted!

Surprising right? The only time that this is recommended is when the event, relationship or journey is of a lower vibration than where you are. We will try to explain this so that everyone is able to comprehend what we mean.

Take for example a woman who has been unfaithful to her husband a few times in the past. For various reasons she stepped outside of her marriage. Then, she either resolved some emotional issues or made a determination that she will behave with more truth and honor. She stopped cheating. She raised her vibration by making this necessary step. Perhaps she charted a few more affairs. It is ok for her to skip those subsequent relationships because she has already ended this cycle of negative behavior. She is now above any relationship which demeans or undermines her marriage and husband.

Another example is a man who has a step-son. He has an extensive history of disliking this young boy for various reasons. After some time, he has begun to see his actions as unfair and unsupported by the child’s own behavior. He realizes he was angry at the situation, not the child. He decides to make amends and treat the child more fairly. He may have charted some more detrimental actions and attitudes toward this child and it is good that he is able to skip these lower vibration actions. He has risen above his previous behavior and is entitled to behave with more honor.

What happens when you skip anything in your chart? The surprising fact is that each chart has many option lines. You did not just write one story that can only progress from one point to another. You actually charted a wide variety of options. This accounts for some of the changes that occur. You may raise or lower your vibration depending upon how you feel, others’ contribution or what type of reactions occur from you or anyone else involved.

Random events do occur, but not often. The greatest source of variance would be people who are dark. They may not have charts and they could impact your life in a variety of ways. Either you have some relationship with a darker person or one impacts you in some way. This would account for some unplanned or uncharted delays or detours.

You may also skip or divert a situation by seeking Divine intervention. Miracles happen and it is possible that in a moment of desperation, you may be granted some altered consequence or reprieve.

You may change or shorten a difficult life cycle by rising above it much earlier than expected. This is optimal! You may be able to respond to many life circumstances with absolute faith. In these instances you would jump well ahead of your chart. Then, you may experience a lull in events or another charted lifeline will begin. If you then slide backward, your original chart may resume. This is very possible. You may possess Divine inspiration in one moment and return to your normal level of faith in the next.

The complexities of life charts may sound truly intricate. Please remember to rise above any negativity, build faith and make uncommon decisions that boost your vibration and allow you to burst forward. Embrace God and the inspiration that comes from deep faith and a spiritual perspective.

It is always better to treat people with more respect than you normally would. It is encouraged that you stop lying, manipulating or attempt to cheat anyone. Improve your interaction with people, pets, the environment, private property… This is the best way to go and your overall spiritual success will respond as well.

Your vibration takes into account your behavior but also your thoughts and feelings to a lesser degree. If you harbor anger toward others but resist demonstrating this, your vibration will still suffer. If you think, feel and behave more positively, your vibration will increase. It matters much more that you truly find understanding and forgiveness and not simply state that you have.

You may have heard people state that thoughts become real. As far as your overall vibration, this is true. Being a better person goes deeper than what you display to the outside world. This is something that you must take into account. Find faith deep into your soul. Altering your behavior superficially does very little for your energy vibration and spiritual success.

Walk the walk AND talk the talk. Your Light shines from deep inside you out into the world. You are the answer that you seek. Live up to it.

Renewal

We have talked before about exit points and that anyone may choose to leave at a designated point for many reasons. They may have felt their jobs were done, they had little more to gain from staying any longer or they wanted to teach others through their loss.

Mass deaths occur for many reasons but it usually about bringing people together. The past has shown many examples of this. Lives lost to terrorism are intended to bring everyone together without care about religion, ethnicity, gender, sexual identity… The death of a child is the loss of everyone’s child, metaphorically. The recent London attacks were to bring all others together to grieve the loss of human life, not by identifying characteristics but because we are all human.

That day we lost “family members.” We did not stop to demean their existence with acceptable or unacceptable traits and identities. In the early hours of the attack we simply felt the loss. Our hearts ached. Hopefully we never stopped to identify who resembled us more or which lives lost was of more value. This is global consciousness. We felt genuine emotion for people we never knew and the families that suffered the losses. This brought us together in energy.

This energy of togetherness blanketed the earth and we boosted healing for our entire global community. For a time we felt genuine emotion for others around the world and not just in our home or community. The goal would be for many of us to accept that we don’t need any barriers between us. Mothers, brothers, children and other loved ones are worthy of our respect. Any life lost to violence is a tragedy. How many people adopted a global policy to respect any human life? This would be an optimal outcome.

Tragic losses bring all of us closer together. For a time we drop any prejudice and simply choose to love. A love without boundaries.

We may be at any age or point in our development to fully understand and accept this truth. Some of us adapt, some of us recover prejudice after a brief period and some of us never felt the compassion for anyone who perished. We are at different levels of spiritual maturity.

As for the losses in my community, there are many aspects at play.

1. Many that died did not take care of their health. Diabetes, kidney disease, heart disease… ravaged their bodies and left little good tissue to carry on the workload of life. Not enough good health to make a difference. The denial that they embraced to avoid their illness was the same denial they used to avoid understanding that life could not continue with this much damage. Their lack of attention to their health left loved ones searching for answers.
2. Many that died abused drugs and alcohol. They did not stop and turn things around. They left spouses, parents, children and many loved ones behind because their addiction was more powerful. In some ways they used denial to escape reality. The Dr. had warnings of poor health and permanent damage. Some stopped going to the Dr. Others were left clinging to the medical practitioners believing that intervention could save them from themselves. Despite this desperate hope, they died anyway. Their irrational escape did not hold any truth.
3. Some people that died chose to let go and return home. Life had taught them enough and they were the kind of tired that only happens after many years of living. Everything ached. It hurt to move. They had lost so many of the pleasures in life that the Other Side seemed like a good choice. They did not commit suicide. They let go. After time they understood that it was ok to leave and their families were brought to that point as well. It was time.

As a community, we truly came together. The gatherings served to provide all of us with support and reassurance. We were forced to face that we must take better care of ourselves. We must also overcome our addictions. And, we must keep our loved ones close.

The shock of losing someone too young caused more pain than an elder who was losing their battle to stay. Week after week we were faced with more tragedy. People died were our own age or younger. We were close or we hardly knew them. Every family was touched by loss and we still have people close to death. It is not ending anytime soon. This cycle is still at work and we struggle to comprehend what we are facing.

Many of us are in a haze of shock. It is almost too much to manage emotionally. Still we carry on because that is what people do.

This is what I have come to know. Renewal is for those lives lost and for those of us left here. This is a community process. Dialog is needed and appreciated. Change is necessary. Lives matter.

Renewal of one person’s life because it was time to begin again.

Renewal of the love we share for friends and family.

Renewal of our feelings of protectiveness for our family and friends who suffer from illness.

Renewal of earth’s emotional climate from stagnant energy leaving and new life beginning.

Renewal of forgiveness and accepting that we all deserve love and respect as we leave this plane.

Renewal of hope that someone/anyone will leave their addiction behind.

Renewal of hope that we will make better decisions from here on out. These lessons have hit us hard.

Renewal of hope that the next 7 generations will be better than the 2 or 3 that are currently here on earth.

 

My Landslide of Grief

There are times when you suffer many losses during a short amount of time. Usually the losses are similar to the ones listed. Not often do you experience the death of significant people in a short amount of time. It does happen, but not often.

It is a series like this that people will state that they “haven’t recovered” from all those close deaths. You could meet someone ten years later and they will still mention this series of deaths that they were unable to get through. You realize that the pain is still causing them emotional distress. This mountain of grief is difficult to manage for any person. Ideally, they could process the loss of one person at a time until they have resolved a major portion of their overall grief. Most people won’t do this. They will continue to look at the entire group of losses and remain unable to recover emotionally.

We have stated many times that no event is intended to undo you. Each event is a lesson. You needed to learn a variety of things from one loss and then be prepared for any future losses. The culmination was meant to be lessons learned not a pile of grief added to the current pile.

I have experienced a lot of grief in the past three months. My family had to euthanize a guinea pig after struggling to heal him from a tumor removal. We made the decision to end his suffering but our grief was monumental. He was very much a part of the family.

Then I lost a dear aunt after a short illness. It was expected but still painful. We lost her sister only 1 year ago. So this is a good example of layering. Recently, our hamster died. We struggled to care for him but we could not save him from illness.

We have lost several community members in close procession. People I knew and people I knew of. Many younger than you would expect. We had one mother lose three sons within a year. One in his late 30’s from a medical problem, one in his late 20’s from an overdose and the most recent one in his early 30’s of an overdose.

Then, of those community members, I lost a male cousin who was only 55 to a massive heart attack. He was only 2 years older than me and this was completely unexpected. His brother is currently in the late stages of lung cancer and will die soon at the age of 53. So that will be two deaths in one family within a month. Both far too young.

We have lost nearly 10 people in our small reservation community in the past 3 months.  With 2 more quickly approaching death.

I’m at a loss for words. I haven’t posted for a while because of this mind-numbing trend. Perhaps I don’t yet embrace the lessons that were intended. Maybe I am not listening. Perhaps I don’t have an open-mind.

I work with many people who have lost someone. It is almost too numerous to mention. But what is our lesson? What do we need to learn as a community?

Two died of overdoses so this obviously speaks to drug awareness, prevention and intervention. Many died from complications of Diabetes. This is something that any native community deals with. The people who died of heart disease may also be attributed to Diabetes. Then two people died of cirrhosis. With lifelong alcohol abuse, their bodies shut down and they succumbed. We also have a higher rate of alcoholism so complications are common in our community.

No one remembers a time when we have suffered so many losses this close together. When I ask spirit, “why?” I get one word, “renewal.”  If you lived here, knew the members of this community and suffered this many losses close together, what does renewal mean? No one has found the answer, including me.

I will keep searching. My impression is that I don’t have enough distance from the pain yet. With some amount of healing I will listen and learn what renewal means and how this happens in my own community. I will hear more words from spirit and will resist shutting down in exasperation. I will find some solace and allow my heart to heal.

This is why I am here. I am a messenger but for now I don’t really know what the message is.

I have faith. I understand there are intended lessons. I understand that we are meant to be brought close together without any boundaries between us. We have all been touched by drug, alcohol, medical and accidental deaths. Some losses were expected and others were not. Sometimes death does not just touch the elderly.

There are times when a loss happens and you have time to find your faith and get through it. There are other times when losses happen so close together that coping simply means getting through one day at a time.

We will find out what renewal means and we will do it together. You may be able to place your finger on the truth now while I am still simply trying to manage. The messenger has some learning to do.

Sympathy and Empathy

People often ask how to be a better person? It is always a simple answer. If you look at the behavior, thinking and intentions of anyone you may see that they are basically positive or negative. This may be easier for you to decide about other people since you would tend to be objective. If you are asked about your own overall wellness and positivity, you would tend to split hairs, justify certain behavior and make excuses. You would be offended by someone’s quick assertions about you.

Basically, if you do good things and have a positive attitude, you are a good person. If you harm people intentionally, steal, lie, manipulate and live without sympathy/empathy for anyone, you are a bad person. Any action may be assessed in this manner. It is much like a judge in a court of law. This person will accept descriptions, facts, information and testimony then make a determination. This is also how the Universe decides what your energy vibration is. Just the facts.

What does your behavior say about you without any excuses or explanations?

This is a difficult way to look at you. In your current world you have a list of reasons and explanations for your behavior. You are depressed, you are reacting to something, you are getting back at someone, you are jealous, you have trauma in your past… There are so many layers for why you act, feel and behave in a certain way.

If you are happy, well-adjusted, flexible and self-determined you rarely act out against others. You may have thoughts of vengeance but why would you go through with it when everything is good in your life? Your own flexibility takes over and you move on to much more interesting and positive things. The people who seek vengeance and actively sabotage people in their lives usually have a lower vibration. They are dark. They see no benefit to responding to stress in a positive manner. They move from one conflict to another and try to get the better of anyone who they feel is in their way or have spoken out or acted out against them.

Their darkness varies. Some people are very dark and evil. Other people are grey, darker grey or intermittently dark. You have been in contact with truly evil people. They make you cringe and you go the other way ASAP. You get a creepy feeling and perhaps your skin feels like it is crawling. Some are described as having dead eyes. You see no emotion or feeling in their gaze. Or, they may look right through you.

What you may not actually know is where you are on the continuum of energy vibration. Are you mostly good or mostly bad? Making an assessment about your own behavior will be difficult because of your explanations and justifications. Make your best effort to decide where you stand on a scale of 1- 10.

Be honest and then go about raising your vibration. No excuses, explanations or justifications. Simply good behavior or bad behavior. Be a nice, supportive and friendly person. View your actions alone. You don’t get this yet, we know. Why would we negate all of your past experiences in reference to how you interact with the world today? Because you are an adult and you must overcome adversity and find goodness in yourself and others.

This is also how we answer the damnation question. If you are a higher vibration person, you cross over and dwell in the upper 5 levels of the Afterlife. Those who have a lower vibration cross over and find themselves in the lower 2 levels.

Why would you knowingly behave in ways where you may end up in the lower levels? The extensive list of questions about how to get away with as much as possible and still not go to Hell was eye opening. It seemed like a very childlike agenda. Can I cheat on my spouse if they deserve it? If my mom did not properly care for me as a child do I have to take care of her now that she is older and sickly? Is harming someone in the name of religion still wrong? Again, look at the action and not the backstory. Harming others, stealing money, lying, cheating, violence… is never OK. If you cannot get past what has occurred between you and the other person than the only thing you can do is walk away. Do no harm and seek no vengeance. This action will increase your vibration.

It is the acting out in harmful ways that lowers your vibration. It is best to not have the darker thoughts as well but the important thing is to not act upon them. Then, work on yourself every day to resist having the darker thoughts as well. Have you noticed that we did not take into account the layers of why, who and what? It is the thoughts and actions, not the backstory.

Enter the concepts of sympathy and empathy. These considerations are for others, not you. Rate your own actions according to how you influence or impair another. If you have no need for sympathy and empathy, then your path is much longer. If you are able to embrace your potential influence upon others, you are much closer to a resolution.

Meet all of your darker thinking and overcome them. Being an independent adult who is self-directed means that you are accountable for your thoughts and actions. You may have been seriously harmed yet God expects you to overcome and offer the Universe love and forgiveness. You are absolved for your sins as well. This is a global event. Everyone is eligible for absolution unless you are dark and treat others with dark thoughts, behaviors and actions.

It is very simple. There is no ambiguity. Your vibration determines your life experience and where you cross over to in the afterlife.

Consider Trauma

What does trauma do to someone’s feelings, and emotions? Consider the age of the person and the impact will likely seem larger for those who are younger. Serious problems could develop. The overall impact trauma has on any one person is directly influenced by their ability to problem-solve, reason and cope. So, an adult who has limited coping skills may have a more dramatic response to trauma than a teenager with good coping skills and a strong support system. Conversely, elders may have had some organic changes in their brain and have lost some resiliency to contrast. It is all relative.

Trauma is subjective. The severity of the trauma depends entirely on how the person who has suffered it responds and reacts. To look at someone else who has suffered a crisis, you lose that subjectivity that they naturally possess. Even if someone is very close to you, the true emotion, fear or disruption in their life still impact them more. If you react more strongly than them, there is likely an imbalance in your emotional stability. Even if you are their parent, the sufferer will continue to be the person impacted the most. No amount of empathy brings you 100% in their shoes.

The groundwork of feeling safe happens very young. If you are familiar with the stages of development you understand this premise. If the infant/child did not successfully feel safe or autonomous, their response to trauma in their entire lifetime will have a greater impact upon them. Again, it is the basis of anyone’s development which the person builds the rest of their life experiences upon. If that foundation is unstable, there is little success in reaching a healthy, resilient, emotionally flexible child, young adult and adult.

This is where We tie into the post from yesterday. The household environment impacts the child from the start. A healthy parent/child relationship will go far into building someone with effective coping strategies. This refers to either parent or caregiver.

Any cycle of anger, fear, despair or acting out may happen all throughout life and in response to different areas of development. Nothing is set in stone and being flexible is very important to our discussion. Any disruption in care may affect the child. There are many factors that will create differences in a child’s development. The possibilities are endless. Each adult may have had a very unique upbringing experience, even if there are siblings. We will not touch upon each form of contrast.

Optimal is an emotionally healthy home with adequate supervision, individual attention, scholastic help, leisure activities and adequate finances. Each parent is healthy and responsible. Any disruption is handled calmly and fairly. Attention and help is given equally to every child. The children are healthy and able to successfully negotiate the school environment.

This is optimal but not common. Even if many of the requirements are met there still will be variations that may impact each child. It is important to raise a child to feel safe, secure, understood, valued and protected. If any of these areas are impaired or lacking, there may be changes in the child’s behavior.

Now add any amount of dysfunction to the home. With a higher incidence of conflict, upheaval, abuse or neglect, the impact upon the health of each child will be affected negatively. More stress leads to more reactivity. Then, being resilient as children are, they will somehow find a new “normal.” If the conflict is long-lasting, severe or directed at the child, they will lose their ability to resolve their emotional disruption. The dysfunction in their household will have a permanent impact on them.

Why is any of this important? Because you are the child AND the parent. You have elements of each in your everyday life. Perhaps you haven’t realized that in some situations, you are the younger person, subordinate or least mature individual in an interaction or environment. Then, you may be the older, authoritative, ultimately responsible person of a different interaction or environment. There is blend of many situations and interactions that draw upon your coping and maturity. Within you there are matters handled by the “parent” aspect and others responded to by the “child” aspect.

We have done some Inner Child work in the past and We will do more now. You are in a position of responsibility for yourself. Being an independent adult leaves you in control of your emotional health. You must examine your perception of trauma. Remember that you are the only person who will understand how you felt and responded to the upsetting events of your life. Others may share some similar feelings but no one can feel exactly what you did. Trauma is subjective. It is up to you to decide how important each event was and resolve the seemingly permanent results it had upon you.

As an adult, you have a choice as to how you will behave and react. Take into account any dysfunction in your life and your ability to respond optimally will decrease. You have the choice. You are responsible for every action you take. Review how you were raised. How strong is your independence and feelings of worth? Did things go well for you? Or, was there an overwhelming amount of dysfunction to deal with? How is this impacting your current life? If you are emotionally healthy, you have reasonable, contemplative responses to contrast. You may not have experienced every situation that you will encounter in life but you have confidence and self-assurance. If you have impulsive, emotionally reactive behavior, there were disruptions in your development. Perhaps this is trauma related or another causative factor.

We focus on trauma for good reason. Anything with less emotional impact would likely not have had permanent changes to the emotional development of anyone. An annoyance, complication, challenge… would be manageable to most people at any age. Trauma is more severe and life altering. Always remember that this is what you considered to be traumatic. Other people may disagree with your perspective but that is inconsequential. You decide what traumatized you.

Our perspective starts with you healing yourself and then rising above to experience life from a position of strength, confidence, emotional and spiritual health. Let us walk this road together.

 

Healthy Parents

This information is provided as a guide for the make-up of people raising children and the potential effects. The purpose is to present to you differing scenarios of how children may be emotionally healthy or mired in dysfunction and to what degree.

We present this to you in hopes that you make an effort to either raise your own children in a loving, supportive environment or help others create stability for their children when varying degrees of dysfunction exist.

It is possible to raise the next few generations and refuse to allow any child to be left unsafe, insecure or alone. Where ever your “family” starts on this scale, begin there and strive to achieve a healthy household. The next generation will respond to the increased stability and reach even higher toward an emotionally healthy household.

1. Healthy mom & dad produce a docile bunch.
2. Single parent produces children who heavily swing toward the gender of that parent. Children may lack adequate supervision. Each child may receive a lesser amount of individual attention, including scholastic help. There is usually a lack financial resource.
3. Grandparents raising children cause a lack of physical activity, higher food intake and heavy sugar use. They rely upon their own upbringing when food and drink were encouraged without recognizing the dietary implications. There continues the limitations of supervision, individual attention, scholastic help and possible inadequate finances.
4. One grandparent raising children produces tendencies toward the gender of that grandparent, heavy caregiver stress and limitations of travel and /or relocation. The presence of only one grandparent causes the child or children to feel overtly obligated to stay at or close to home. There is little opportunity to follow their dreams. Higher education may not be possible or could create a lot of debt. Personal fulfilment is uncommon.
5. Siblings raising their siblings results in disorganization, lack of responsibility, poor nutrition and high dropout rates. Depression may be common in both the caregiver and the child. Acts of destructive behavior or self-injury may develop.

• The sibling who raises their own siblings brings about high caregiver stress, lack of self-definition, a desire to limit their own pregnancy/children, a fractured psyche, substance abuse and high dropout rates.
• The sibling raised by another sibling creates an emotional vacuum of the caregiver who is never satiated, irresponsibility, lack of respect for elders or parents in general, poor health, dysfunctional coping, mood swings, victim-oriented interactions, sociopathy, substance abuse and malingering or outright joblessness.

Children raised in foster care have higher incidents of all the above dysfunctional outcomes listed.

These are examples only and do not represent all possible outcomes for children in every situation. Some possible dysfunctional results are not listed. There are also some healthy “families” without either biological parent.

The information provided is based on the basic needs of each child being met.

The further away from healthy, well-adjusted parents, the more dysfunction may be present. Then, the possibilities of abuse, neglect, medical illness/trauma, sexual abuse, homelessness, poverty… will increase the emotional toll on both caregivers and children.

There is always hope. You, as an individual, may begin reaching for a healthy “family.” Several generations may have faltered but you may turn this around. Beginning with you, it is possible to increase the emotional stability of this generation and the next. Teaching children about love, respect, personal space, honesty, faith and responsibility will improve their relationship with their own children. Then that generation will raise children to the best of their ability.

You may be the one who changes everything. Have hope. Do the work. Be a leader and a follower and hold yourself to a higher standard. Do you remember a generation when there was bounty and prosperity in your family? Who was the family leader? What values, goals or priorities made it better? Why did it change? There may be a lot of lessons learned from looking back on the most recent successful “parent” and making adjustments to align with that success more closely.